When Love Turns to Ashes

Sitting with my Mum the other night on the patio, having a cheeky wine or 4, we got talking, and I said to her (in my tipsy state): “Why do we bother getting married? What’s the point? All the years of memories, then Puff it’s gone!! Just like that!”

I said, “I don’t think I’ll bother again Mum,” to which she replied, “YOU WILL!!!”

She said, “If we didn’t bother at all we’d never have the memories that make life worth living. That’s why they say, ‘It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.’”

She said, sometimes love just burns out. Both people can fall out of love, same as one or the other. That’s a pretty good way of explaining things, Mum!! Mentally that helped me a lot. Thanks Mum!!! Thank God for mums, ey?

Life experience taught her that too. I guess my mum n dad were a similar age too when they split up. People change; situations can change everything.

I’m glad we had this chat. I was a bit over women there for a while but, as she said, some girl will just come in to my life when I am not looking, I guess.

Reminds me of that song David Grey did (not “Sail Away”!! – been there, done that, got the T-shirt and the mug!!) I mean “This Year’s Loving Better Last”.

I think today we just move on too easily. In yesteryear, they tell me, it was looked down on if you left or gave up on your marriage. We are a throwaway world, I think.  May be this was all in the stars anyway – like my ex, Julianne. She and I struggled too after cancer – that took its toll for sure!

I don’t want any more shit now, please Lord. It’s not doing my love life much cop, mate!!!

I know it’s meant to make ya stronger – but any stronger, I’ll be bloody coffin nail, mate.

COME ON !!!!!!!


3 thoughts on “When Love Turns to Ashes

  1. As for the moving on too easily, Peter, there are two ways of looking at it. I agree that you should make more of an effort to pull through a bad patch instead of bailing if you have children, but if you haven’t there is no reason to stay in a relationship that no longer makes you happy. As for not doing it again – the ex is just one person in the whole world; marriage might be completely different with someone else. I’m on my 3rd, and each one has been nothing like the other two! Good luck x


    • Thanks for that Terry. You’ve helped me get things in perspective. I’ve already met some wonderful women but am just being cautious at the moment and concentrating on getting ME back again.Or, hopefully, a better me!


    • Thank terry
      That means a lot I had lost
      A lot of belief in lasting relationships as it was so big
      I guess it’s a case of giving another love a chance ” get back on the horse so too speak !
      Thankyou , we shall see !
      Might just get a dog hahaha


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